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The Top 6 Things People Get Wrong About Dating Milfs

There are so many myths surrounding cougar dating that it's hard to know where to start. Maybe it's something to do with the threat posed by sexually active mature women. Maybe it's pure ignorance, but people have some funny ideas about what makes Milfs tick.

mature woman with her cub in the kitchen — Sexual fires are relighted between cougars and cubs.

Here are 5 of the most common myths that cougars and cubs have to contend with.

1. Milfs are no Better than Sexual Predators, Trawling for Young Guys

This one is the most offensive idea of all. There's a media myth about cougars which suggests that they are only interested in sex and "corrupting" younger guys. But most of the time this is just plain wrong.

It's the cubs who hunt the cougars, not the other way round. I guess we might just need a new word to describe hot Milfs, one which makes it clear that older woman dating is a two-way street - not a hunting expedition by unscrupulous mature babes.

2. Relationships with Cougars are Doomed

When you start dating an older woman, your friends may well shake their heads. "It'll never work" they'll say, "you'll lose interest. You'll go back to younger girls, and your passion won't last a couple of weeks."

Well, that may be true, but it's not certain. Many cougar-cub relationships endure. Some lead to marriage. Damning them from the start is often just the product of "cougar envy" not hard headed analysis.

3. There's a Fatal Intellectual Gap Between Cubs and Cougars

Sometimes, people will come up with a variant on the theme above. They'll tell you that older women get bored with shallow young guys; that they have wildly different interests, and that they are only "playing" with their toyboys.

Again, sometimes that's true. However, many couples learn how to share their interests and learn from each other. And, as we often hear, "opposites attract", right?

4. Age Gaps Eventually Lead to Sexual Disasters

Here's another common myth: Young guys easily become sexually bored with older lovers and inevitably cheat on them sooner, rather than later.

Again, this one's about sexual envy more than anything else. Sex between cougars and cubs is like any sexual relationship. It can be amazing, but it can break down. The age gap has nothing to do with it. In fact, for some guys it's a turn on that helps keep the relationship alive.

5. Cougars Should Relax and Enjoy Life Without Worrying About a Younger Guy

This one's another to file under the "fake concern for Cougars' well-being" category.

You'll often hear people urging mature women to give up their younger partners so that they can chill out any make the most of their 40s and 50s without worrying about their partner's professional struggles.

But that's pure rubbish. Just because you are older doesn't mean you lose the desire to help your partner grow and develop. You don't automatically retreat from life. Sometimes you dive back in, and fall in love with younger guys.

6. Kids Can be a Relationship Killer

Sometimes, people miss out on dating cougars because they are afraid of complications with their partner's children. Sure, teenage kids can take time to get used to their mom having a partner close to their own age, but they will get used to it, believe me.

Kids aren't usually a decisive factor in cougar-cub relationships breaking down, but they are something that needs to be handled sensitively.

Society still seems to have a beef with sexy older women dating young guys with a taste for mature dating. That's why these myths endure. But they are just that - myths.

Don't let them get in your way as you try to find the Milf of your dreams (or a sexy younger guy to relight your sexual fires).